Two Grooms Wedding Attire: The Ultimate Guide to Coordination and Style

Planning a wedding as a same-sex couple offers a beautiful opportunity to rewrite traditional rules and create a celebration that is authentically yours. One of the most significant ways to express your shared identity and individual personalities is through two grooms wedding attire. Whether you envision yourselves in identical tuxedos or complementary, nature-inspired suits, the goal is to feel confident and cohesive as you stand at the altar.

As an interfaith wedding officiant, I have seen a remarkable shift in how grooms approach their wedding day look. Gone are the days of feeling restricted to standard black-and-white rentals. Today’s grooms are embracing personalization, bold colors, and high-quality tailoring to ensure their attire is as memorable as their vows.

The Evolution of the Groom’s Wardrobe

The landscape of men’s formalwear is experiencing a renaissance. With the U.S. men’s suits segment projected to reach $12.8 billion in 2025, it is clear that grooms are prioritizing their wedding day wardrobe more than ever before. This growth is largely driven by a demand for "Made-to-Measure" services. In fact, roughly 62% of male consumers ages 25–45 now prefer tailored options over off-the-rack suits.

For same-sex couples, this shift is particularly empowering. With over 823,000 married same-sex couples in the U.S. as of 2025—a number that has more than doubled since 2015—the industry is finally catching up to the diverse needs of the LGBTQ+ community.

To Match or Not to Match?

The most common question I receive from couples is: "Do we have to wear the same thing?" The answer is a resounding no. While the "mirror effect" of two identical suits can look incredibly sharp and formal, most modern grooms prefer a coordinated look that allows their individual styles to shine.

The Mirror Effect (Identical Attire)

Wearing identical outfits creates a sense of total unity. This works exceptionally well for ultra-formal black-tie weddings. If you choose this route, ensure that the fit is perfected for each of your unique body types.

The Coordinated Approach

Coordination involves choosing different suits that share a common "DNA." This could be the same fabric in different colors, or the same color palette with different textures.

• Same Fabric, Different Colors: Imagine one groom in a navy wool suit and the other in a charcoal version of the same fabric. The "weight" and "sheen" of the photos will look balanced.
• Same Color, Different Textures: One groom might wear a matte forest green wool suit, while the other wears a forest green velvet dinner jacket.

2025–2026 Trends in Two Grooms Wedding Attire

The upcoming wedding seasons are leaning heavily into "earthy" elegance and "quiet luxury." If you want to stay ahead of the curve, consider these emerging trends.

Nature-Inspired Hues

Deep Forest Green is the breakout star for 2025. This color is versatile, sophisticated, and looks stunning in outdoor settings. Other thriving colors include:

• Terracotta: Perfect for desert or autumn weddings.
• Sage Green: A lighter, airy option for spring celebrations.
• Chocolate Brown: A rich, 1970s-inspired comeback that offers a softer alternative to black.

The "Quiet Luxury" Tuxedo

The modern tuxedo is moving away from the shiny, high-gloss satins of the past. Instead, we are seeing matte wool finishes, subtle micro-checks, and velvet lapels. This trend focuses on the tactile feel of the fabric—textural elements that look expensive and sophisticated without being "loud."

Gender-Fluid Silhouettes

The boundaries of traditional masculine shapes are expanding. We are seeing an increase in non-binary elements, such as:

• Skirted Tuxedo Jackets: Offering a high-fashion, avant-garde silhouette.
• Wide-Leg Tailored Trousers: Moving away from the "skinny fit" toward a more relaxed, draped look.
• High-Low Hemlines: Adding a contemporary edge to classic jackets.

Standing Out from the Wedding Party

With 86% of LGBTQ+ couples now choosing to "blend" their wedding parties, it can be easy for the grooms to blend into the background. Here is how to ensure you remain the stars of the show.

The "Rule of One" for Patterns

If you want to incorporate patterns like plaid, floral, or paisley, follow the "Rule of One." Only one groom should wear a loud pattern, or both should wear very subtle versions of the same pattern. If your groomsmen are also in suits, keep their patterns even more muted to ensure you stand out.

Leveling Up the Formality

A simple way to differentiate yourselves is to be "one step" more formal than your party.

• Grooms: Tuxedos | Groomsmen: Suits
• Grooms: Three-piece suits (with vests) | Groomsmen: Two-piece suits

Unique Accessories

Accessories are the perfect place to show off your personality.

• Brooch Boutonnieres: A top trend for 2025 is replacing fresh flowers with vintage-inspired metalwork or "jeweled" pins.
• Double-Breasted Jackets: The double-breasted comeback offers a "vintage-yet-timeless" look that instantly distinguishes the groom from the standard single-breasted groomsmen suits.

Practical Advice for Shopping and Tailoring

The biggest mistake grooms make is procrastination. Because many people believe suit shopping is "easier" than dress shopping, they wait until the last minute.

The Shopping Process

1. Define the Vibe: Consider your venue. A beach wedding in Mexico suggests linen or seersucker, while a winter castle wedding calls for velvet or heavy wool.
2. Shop Together (or with a "Spy"): Many grooms shop together to ensure their looks don't clash. If you want a "first look" surprise, have a mutual friend or a stylist audit both outfits.
3. Budget for Tailoring: A $500 suit that is perfectly tailored will always look better than a $2,000 suit that fits poorly. Schedule at least 2–3 fittings, starting 3 months before the date.

Real-World Example: The "Nature" Duo

One couple I worked with recently chose a "Mountain Chic" theme. One groom wore a custom charcoal wool suit with a subtle windowpane pattern, while the other wore a solid deep forest green suit in the same fabric weight. They both wore matching leather boots and custom wood-carved brooches. The result was cohesive, masculine, and perfectly suited to their outdoor ceremony.

Real-World Example: The "Classic" Twist

Another couple opted for traditional black tuxedos but differentiated themselves through their lapels. One chose a peak lapel for a structured, powerful look, while the other chose a shawl lapel for a softer, classic Hollywood vibe. This kept them in sync while honoring their different body types.

Common Mistakes to Avoid

• The "Costly" Rental Trap: Many grooms think renting is the only budget-friendly option. However, high-end rentals can cost 1/3 of the price of buying a suit. Investing in a custom suit you can wear again for years is often more economical in the long run.
• Over-Matching: You don't need the exact same tie, shoes, and socks. Modern styling is about cohesion, not duplication. Small variations make the photos feel more editorial and less like a costume.
• Ignoring the Environment: Wearing a heavy wool tuxedo to a summer garden wedding is a recipe for discomfort. Always match your fabric weight (grams per meter) to the season and location.

Conclusion

Your wedding attire should be a reflection of your joy and the unique bond you share. Whether you lean into the latest 2025 trends like deep forest green and brooch boutonnieres, or you prefer the timeless elegance of a matte wool tuxedo, the key is preparation. By starting early and focusing on the "vibe" of your celebration, you can ensure that you both step onto that aisle looking and feeling like the best versions of yourselves.

As you finalize your look, don't forget that the attire is just one piece of the puzzle. From the ceremony script to the first dance, every element should tell your story.